One day – when I was scared about my future I wrote a list titled “Things I want to do before I die or Go Back To Work” since both were very real possibilities.. (I had never heard the term Bucket List, it was 2001, 6 years before the Jack Nickolson and Morgan Freeman blockbuster -but that is essentially what my list was..). My list kept me focused and it was fun.
Some things on it were light:
– Eat an ice-cream sundae and NOT feel guilty for doing so – just enjoy it. That one took practice!
– Make plans to see college friends that I had not seen in years
Others were more involved: I wanted to go to Temple in a foreign country and I did! I spent Passover in Italy and went to services in an old, beautiful synagogue in Florence. (For the first time in my life I did not kept Passover all that well – -Com’on I was in ITALY with all that amazing bread and pasta!)
Some things on my list were important to do alone. Some I experienced with others (Girls Day Out! Cocktails, in the middle of the day – not for a Wedding, or a 4th of July BBQ, but having a few friends take an afternoon off of work and just have a few glasses of wine and a good time with me) Hey, I thought I might be not around so long – no judgements on that one ok? It was so much FUN!
Other examples on my list:
– Write a Children’s Book – I did! I named it Jordan’s Big Day, and it described all the fun things I did when I would take my then 3 year old nephew out for a day in NYC. I still love reading that book.
– Say good bye to or take a break from friendships that were only “historical”and not REAL anymore and caused me anxiety or stress.
– Stay involved in my friend’s life and still be a good and supportive friend to them with whatever they were dealing with
-Write letters to my loved one – just in case…
Having the list – kept me feeling accomplished as a I checked things off . The list made even scary days somewhat fun bc I was always planning and looking forward to something.
I did almost everything on it – and it made my year and a half of cancer treatment more than tolerable. It was a gift to myself – and I don’t think without cancer I would have ever have taken the time to things I always wanted to do and be so nice to me..
I highly recommend a list – you can call it whatever you want!